Just get over it...

I think being pregnant has allowed me to reflect on my childhood and gain a better understanding and respect for my mom...

As I am sprinting down the road to having my own daughter...my only hope is that I am able to be as good of a mother as Sharon has been to me over the past 28 years (I know that I don't tell you this nearly enough but there are not enough words or thanks in the world to truly express how lucky I am)

One thing that seems to be sticking out as of late is my mother's uncanny ability to "get over things" quickly. Its like, she says what she has to say and moves on. And I find that I am (in more ways than I like to admit) just like her in that aspect.

Now don't get me wrong, there are times, issues, things that I hold on to - but for the most part, I make an effort not to stay mad or frustrated or angry once I have stated my peace and feel like there has been a resolution...I would say that I am not really one to hold a grudge (98% of the time) and I know this is something I have learned from my mom.

To be honest - this was one of the things that used to drive me NUTS when I was in my pre-teens and teenage years. How could she just list off all the reasons I was wrong, or be mad at me for doing something I had no business doing, and then not even two minutes later (after she had stated her peace) talk to me like nothing was wrong. That was crazy in my mind and seriously I hated it...

but imagine that - life as an adult (well at least the successful ones) has no room for holding grudges...the time, energy and effort exerted on maintaining this anger or ill will or malcontent for someone or something seems useless when you are faced with so many other more productive things that require that time, energy and effort.

I have said this before - the woman is pretty damn smart...chalk it up to her years of experience as hands down one of the best (I might be biased but who cares) educators in the state or country for that matter, or the masters in early eduction or just her personal experiences and natural approach to life - but by golly...I think it works!

add that to the list of things I will make sure to include in my parenting tool belt - the last thing I want is for Miss Delainey to see the learned behavior of holding a grudge once the problem has been resolved...there is no place in her life for that regardless of her age!

Cheers to being able to speak my mind, state my peace and move on...I feel like I am a much better person, wife, friend, co-worker, manager and future mother for this skill!